...can change drastically at any second..
This may be a scary thing most of the time.. but if you are in the midst of despair and feel like there is no hope left, and you have no energy left to keep struggling and keep going.. just try and sleep through it.. try and forgive yourself and the world and your situation and love yourself.. and trust that something *will* change drastically, suddenly, sooner or later.. any second... and you will be okay.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Love and relationships: different types of couples
We grow up with these different ideas about them.
Bollywood: Angst, drama, fighting against family and society, hormones, intensity, "ishq", extreme loyalty, and then usually happy endings.
Hollywood: Girl next door meets boy next door, obstacles (but mostly of the insecurity and miscommunication variety, nothing as dramatic as bollywood), and then usually happy endings.
TV:
Sitcoms: Cliched things happen (all men are like this, and all women are like that - haha everyone is predictable) but in the end everyone loves each-other.
Parents: well.. depends on your parents clearly :)
Other adults: aunts, uncles, older siblings and cousins.. again depends on what you are exposed to.
In my experience I have seen these types..
1) So there are some that seem to have a true connection. They both have similar dreams and desires and values and passions and goals in life. They don't need to actually work on having mutual respect because they just connect, they get it. The only thing that can screw them over is insecurity/emotional issues they grew up with.. because otherwise they are solid and clearly meant to be together.
2) Then you meet couples that get on just cuz they are the kind of people that get on with everyone (see hollywood). They are pleasant, polite, helpful, "good" "generic" people who like almost everything but aren't necessarily passionate about anything and hence less cause for conflict.
3) Then you meet couples that thrive on drama and intensity (see bollywood) - if its not external, it's internal, if it's not real, it can be created - that's what keeps the passion going for a while but can burn you out if you don't somehow find something more meaningful to keep you going.
4) And then there are the ones that are "good enough". Don't want to be alone forever - they are passionate people but not necessarily with the 1) kind of connection but close enough understanding that they find eachother good people to come home to, cuddle, vent about your day. Like to do enough things together to keep things pleasant. Don't have any significant clash of values, can plan things together, can usually survive through stressful times. It works.
5) And then there are the ones that started off as 3) and then once the initial passion got exhausting, instead of burning out and ending things they figured, let's give it a shot. These can, I guess end up as 4) if they work out, or 6) otherwise
6) After having somehow managed to get through the beginning as 1, 2 or 3 as they get to know eachother better, they realise.. they aren't really so connected, or as generic (they are nice, but they have some defining values and characteristics), or without the drama there isn't that strong a connection - except they have gotten attached, and don't feel like there is much hope finding anything else out there. So they resign themselves to making the best of what they have. Usually they end up bickering and resenting eachother and then making up and settle for eachother.
7) There are also relationships that start off as "casual" or friends with benefits or whatever which can lead to any one of the above.
Can you guys think of any other kinds that are out there?
Bollywood: Angst, drama, fighting against family and society, hormones, intensity, "ishq", extreme loyalty, and then usually happy endings.
Hollywood: Girl next door meets boy next door, obstacles (but mostly of the insecurity and miscommunication variety, nothing as dramatic as bollywood), and then usually happy endings.
TV:
Sitcoms: Cliched things happen (all men are like this, and all women are like that - haha everyone is predictable) but in the end everyone loves each-other.
Parents: well.. depends on your parents clearly :)
Other adults: aunts, uncles, older siblings and cousins.. again depends on what you are exposed to.
In my experience I have seen these types..
1) So there are some that seem to have a true connection. They both have similar dreams and desires and values and passions and goals in life. They don't need to actually work on having mutual respect because they just connect, they get it. The only thing that can screw them over is insecurity/emotional issues they grew up with.. because otherwise they are solid and clearly meant to be together.
2) Then you meet couples that get on just cuz they are the kind of people that get on with everyone (see hollywood). They are pleasant, polite, helpful, "good" "generic" people who like almost everything but aren't necessarily passionate about anything and hence less cause for conflict.
3) Then you meet couples that thrive on drama and intensity (see bollywood) - if its not external, it's internal, if it's not real, it can be created - that's what keeps the passion going for a while but can burn you out if you don't somehow find something more meaningful to keep you going.
4) And then there are the ones that are "good enough". Don't want to be alone forever - they are passionate people but not necessarily with the 1) kind of connection but close enough understanding that they find eachother good people to come home to, cuddle, vent about your day. Like to do enough things together to keep things pleasant. Don't have any significant clash of values, can plan things together, can usually survive through stressful times. It works.
5) And then there are the ones that started off as 3) and then once the initial passion got exhausting, instead of burning out and ending things they figured, let's give it a shot. These can, I guess end up as 4) if they work out, or 6) otherwise
6) After having somehow managed to get through the beginning as 1, 2 or 3 as they get to know eachother better, they realise.. they aren't really so connected, or as generic (they are nice, but they have some defining values and characteristics), or without the drama there isn't that strong a connection - except they have gotten attached, and don't feel like there is much hope finding anything else out there. So they resign themselves to making the best of what they have. Usually they end up bickering and resenting eachother and then making up and settle for eachother.
7) There are also relationships that start off as "casual" or friends with benefits or whatever which can lead to any one of the above.
Can you guys think of any other kinds that are out there?
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
"green" vibrator
http://uk.news.yahoo.com/18/20091216/tod-green-vibrators-promise-sustainable-7f81b96.html
He said climate change had been his primary motivation rather than sexy fun.
"When I was a child we'd have months of good weather," the inventor said.
He said climate change had been his primary motivation rather than sexy fun.
"When I was a child we'd have months of good weather," the inventor said.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Um.. ok
So I posted Hugh Jackman is Gay on my other blog (btw I doubt he actually is: his response to gay rumors), along with my little joke theory about why he is gay... and two very disgruntled females decided to blast me..
Apparently they've been googling "Hugh Jackman is Gay" and blasting everyone who dares claim it!
"From: Nina
Nina has left a new comment on your post "Hugh Jackman is gay":
Do you know him personally? No. You bases such affirmations
exclusively on very stupid gossip expressed by others superficial as
you that they don't know him or they suppose to know him from details
that they don't mean anything.
Wake up and careful with the superficial sentences , the world is full
of young men gotten married to older and less beautiful women of them,
this doesn't mean that is all gays, you are ridiculous.
The blogs are used for exposing otherwise constructive matters close it"
and
"From: Carla
Carla has left a new comment on your post "Hugh Jackman is gay":
well, if to be respected like normal human beings needs to betray
every day his own wife and to go in bed only with under age girls, now
I understand because the world makes to vomit. Do I bet that you
belong to this category, right?"
Yes, their names are Nina and Carla, and they will not let you touch Hugh Jackman's izzat. I am highly amused.
Also... I was giving him a compliment!!! I love that guy!
Apparently they've been googling "Hugh Jackman is Gay" and blasting everyone who dares claim it!
"From: Nina
Nina has left a new comment on your post "Hugh Jackman is gay":
Do you know him personally? No. You bases such affirmations
exclusively on very stupid gossip expressed by others superficial as
you that they don't know him or they suppose to know him from details
that they don't mean anything.
Wake up and careful with the superficial sentences , the world is full
of young men gotten married to older and less beautiful women of them,
this doesn't mean that is all gays, you are ridiculous.
The blogs are used for exposing otherwise constructive matters close it"
and
"From: Carla
Carla has left a new comment on your post "Hugh Jackman is gay":
well, if to be respected like normal human beings needs to betray
every day his own wife and to go in bed only with under age girls, now
I understand because the world makes to vomit. Do I bet that you
belong to this category, right?"
Yes, their names are Nina and Carla, and they will not let you touch Hugh Jackman's izzat. I am highly amused.
Also... I was giving him a compliment!!! I love that guy!
Friday, July 10, 2009
More comics
Something very raw and honest about how this comic is drawn..
Also - they are naked a lot!
Anders loves Maria
Also - they are naked a lot!
Anders loves Maria
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Friday, June 26, 2009
Friday, June 5, 2009
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Brothers Bloom Trailer
http://www.apple.com/trailers/summit/thebrothersbloom/opening_large.html
http://www.apple.com/trailers/summit/thebrothersbloom/trailer_large.html
http://www.apple.com/trailers/summit/thebrothersbloom/trailer_large.html
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Slum justice
Today, a friend posted about the "Free hugs campaign" on facebook.
Also today, I saw this:
The rise of the Taliban, the fall of Karachi
Hug a Taliban? Err..
I am reading Shantaram right now. It's a book about this Australian criminal who ran away from prison and settled in a Bombay slum and I just finished a chapter describing slum justice. The story goes like this:
A man called Joseph regularly got drunk and beat up his wife. All the neighbors and most people in the slum knew about this but had kept silent, until one day when they heard the screams and the shouts and the beating and it got to be too much. The woman's blood stained naked body fell out of their (the man and his wife's) slum quarters and the women in the neighborhood wrapped her up in a yellow sari and carried her off. At this point the slum head had decided intervention was necessary. And it went as follows.
The man while still drunk was offered a drink for his troubles, which he tentatively accepted.
Then another
and another until he started refusing it, but they kept forcing it down his throat until he passed out.
After a while they woke him up and he started asking for water, which he was refused and instead offered another bottle of daru. Every time he asked for water, more and more of the alcohol was thrust down his throat, until he fainted again.
Then after five minutes he was woken up yet again and then they started beating him and asking him if he knew what he had done.
In any case, to cut a long and painful story short, they tortured him, made him believe he had killed his wife, kept depriving him of water only offering him more and more alcohol until he felt true remorse, they almost literally beat the devil out him, until "All the spite and defiance in him was defeated. He sobbed the name of his wife over and over again."
And then they bathed him and gave him water, he got hugs and kind words and a chance to redeem himself and he found out that his wife was not dead although it was up to her if she wanted to come back to him or not.
The leader of the slum then said "In this way is justice done, because justice is a judgment that is both fair and forgiving. Justice is not done until everyone is satisfied, even those who offend us and must be punished by us. You can see, by the way we have done...., that justice is not only the way we punish those who do wrong. it is also the way we try to save them."
The point of this story... I guess.. is that I want to beat the shit out of the Taliban and other morality police equivalents until they feel remorse and are begging for mercy. And then some more till they realize that Allah is not on their side, and they have no power no agency nothing left and then some more until they realize they deserve it and accept the punishment and then when there is nothing left Juan Mann can go hug them all he wants.
On a side note, this was basically a more shaped out, intense version of typical abusive relationships (abuse and then offer love and then abuse again) + the good cop bad cop routine (punish and then offer redemption - maybe).
In any case, a lot of people need hugs in this world but I think a lot of people also need and in fact want punishment, because punishment is a precursor to forgiveness and redemption.
Also today, I saw this:
The rise of the Taliban, the fall of Karachi
Hug a Taliban? Err..
I am reading Shantaram right now. It's a book about this Australian criminal who ran away from prison and settled in a Bombay slum and I just finished a chapter describing slum justice. The story goes like this:
A man called Joseph regularly got drunk and beat up his wife. All the neighbors and most people in the slum knew about this but had kept silent, until one day when they heard the screams and the shouts and the beating and it got to be too much. The woman's blood stained naked body fell out of their (the man and his wife's) slum quarters and the women in the neighborhood wrapped her up in a yellow sari and carried her off. At this point the slum head had decided intervention was necessary. And it went as follows.
The man while still drunk was offered a drink for his troubles, which he tentatively accepted.
Then another
and another until he started refusing it, but they kept forcing it down his throat until he passed out.
After a while they woke him up and he started asking for water, which he was refused and instead offered another bottle of daru. Every time he asked for water, more and more of the alcohol was thrust down his throat, until he fainted again.
Then after five minutes he was woken up yet again and then they started beating him and asking him if he knew what he had done.
In any case, to cut a long and painful story short, they tortured him, made him believe he had killed his wife, kept depriving him of water only offering him more and more alcohol until he felt true remorse, they almost literally beat the devil out him, until "All the spite and defiance in him was defeated. He sobbed the name of his wife over and over again."
And then they bathed him and gave him water, he got hugs and kind words and a chance to redeem himself and he found out that his wife was not dead although it was up to her if she wanted to come back to him or not.
The leader of the slum then said "In this way is justice done, because justice is a judgment that is both fair and forgiving. Justice is not done until everyone is satisfied, even those who offend us and must be punished by us. You can see, by the way we have done...., that justice is not only the way we punish those who do wrong. it is also the way we try to save them."
The point of this story... I guess.. is that I want to beat the shit out of the Taliban and other morality police equivalents until they feel remorse and are begging for mercy. And then some more till they realize that Allah is not on their side, and they have no power no agency nothing left and then some more until they realize they deserve it and accept the punishment and then when there is nothing left Juan Mann can go hug them all he wants.
On a side note, this was basically a more shaped out, intense version of typical abusive relationships (abuse and then offer love and then abuse again) + the good cop bad cop routine (punish and then offer redemption - maybe).
In any case, a lot of people need hugs in this world but I think a lot of people also need and in fact want punishment, because punishment is a precursor to forgiveness and redemption.
Saturday, April 4, 2009
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